A very insightful poem filled with the anomalies created by trying to live up to what is expected from life. So emotionally charged and true.
As a result of religious belief, inculcated in law and in the minds of "average" people, love and marriage are institutionalized in the same. Thus, any deviation from what is institutionalized creates conflict, and sometimes anger or guilt. This is really unfortunate, because love and sex are entirely different things.
In a male-dominated society, certain sexual aberrations have been also institutionalized like mistresses, prostitution and old boy networks. Religion has made failed marriage as an indication of a failed life.
Love does not have to have sex or marriage to endure. It just has to be allowed to exist. By the same token sex is a natural need that should be also allowed to exist and not confined by law or forced monogamy. Your poem clearly shows the anxiety created through religion and state imposed rules about how we, as individuals, should behave.
You've offered a metaphoric history of passion that presents a subtext of longing as well as acceptance. Your words suggest there are many ways to experience conjugal foreplay, as well as the foreshadowing of intimate questions difficult to answer, thus resulting for many, the experience of anticipation far outweighing the reality. Perhaps there are completions in sex that truly are more fulfilling with self-creation, a state of mind needing not the anticipation of nirvana, or the heartbreak of commingling fantasies.
Sex definitely brings out our primal nature, but then again we're just animals to begin with. and because sex sells, we're constantly exposed. (pardon the pun) and titillated.
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As a result of religious belief, inculcated in law and in the minds of "average" people, love and marriage are institutionalized in the same. Thus, any deviation from what is institutionalized creates conflict, and sometimes anger or guilt. This is really unfortunate, because love and sex are entirely different things.
In a male-dominated society, certain sexual aberrations have been also institutionalized like mistresses, prostitution and old boy networks. Religion has made failed marriage as an indication of a failed life.
Love does not have to have sex or marriage to endure. It just has to be allowed to exist. By the same token sex is a natural need that should be also allowed to exist and not confined by law or forced monogamy. Your poem clearly shows the anxiety created through religion and state imposed rules about how we, as individuals, should behave.
Ron
If she ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.