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Validation and Coming Full Circle 3/2/2009 8:06:48 PM
Conecting with old friends from high school. I recently had a very old but dear friend contact me via one of those online community sites. Having lived part of my childhood in a very small town, she pretty much knew most of what had happened to me over the past nineteen years. I was congratulated over my book but asked why I never told her about my past back then.
For almost twenty five years I kept that little secret. I can remember in High School my Dad breaking out the news clippings and bragging to an ex girlfriend, “see, look what I did”. I was still too young to understand why it bothered me. I never knew why I felt dirty or used back then. I knew it was wrong but I was told it wasn’t by the sheer fact my mother sent me to live with him.
How could it be? Parents never do anything to hurt or abuse their children. Even if they go to prison and are found guilty, they’re really innocent. THEY know what is best! So how come I felt like I needed to hide or compartmentalize my life even when I was seventeen? I guess these are answers only a professional can answer.
What I took from talking with this old friend was that life is beautiful. Each of us has a wonderful and unique story that needs to be heard. Although I have spent the past few years really analyzing my past and putting it into a story for others to learn from, there are other stories just as important. Now, writing this blog, I feel as though I have come full circle in my life. There is balance and sense of hope that each of us can use to help on another. As with this reunion, her connection to me not only allowed a new dimension to that community site to add more connections but she validated one small thing; me.
