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Loving A Star 8/12/2008 3:52:23 AM
I read an interesting article about spouses of celebrities. The emphasis was on the separation of home and work, a familiar basis for any successful relationship. When we do our "professional thing," whatever that may be, we are often in costume, becoming a fictional character in a world that has little to do with our home except for providing the means to have a home.
There are partnerships and interactions that have nothing to do with our real life and the life we share with our family. In essence, this is a type of virtual world. And having a solid foundation of love and trust at home makes your family invincible.
Faith. As long you have faith in each other, then the rest is just details. This does not dismiss responsibility, and we all know the line that divides, that makes social "social" and personal "personal," and keeping that line and knowing that your partner respects and does the same is what makes for a lasting relationship. How many actors are wives or husbands to XYZ on film and have a family at home? That's why it's called FICTION.
I became morbidly fascinated with the Gene Simmons Family Jewels Show. No matter the act and all the temptations that come with it, there is no doubt who the real love is ... As he puts it, "And that's Shannon, my beauty queen, prettiest woman that I've ever seen." Not lyrics that will go down in rock and roll history, but a very clear statement, indeed. True, sometimes the lines blur, but the lasting relationships make clear the line between Hollywood and home.
And then, of course, there is the "fan," the first part of the word fanatic, those who like to build make-believe worlds of love and romance, even entire lives from their fantasies. We all fantasize. We've all been fans at one point or another. But when the line between fantasy and reality is lost, then we run into problems. And the news has been filled from the dawn of time with stories about persons who are so delusionsal, they become a threat to themselves and others. As the article emphasized, this is sharpest side of the double-edged sword when having a relationship with a celebrity. But this occurs in our mundane world as well, and the passion that we so often celebrate as poets and writers turns into something less palatable in the hands of those who are possessed.
So, we enjoy the upside, pray about the downside, and learn to duck and dodge while looking good doing it. Any time you have something good in life, the negative in this world will try to suck your joy away. Nothing is worth losing your joy. Always remember that.
May your life and love always give you reason to smile and have peace in your heart and clarity of mind and soul!
